21 August 2011

The Other Half - Another India, Another Protest

By Kalpana Sharma

Lone battle: Irom Sharmila, force-fed and kept alive by the State. Photo: The Hindu Photo Library

Lone battle: Irom Sharmila, force-fed and kept alive by the State.

While the farcical drama around Anna Hazare's protest and arrest has hogged the limelight, Irom Sharmila's indefinite fast since 2000 to get the Armed Forces Special Powers Act (AFSPA) repealed continues to be ignored by the nation and the media…

A day after Indians ‘celebrated' Independence Day by following the annual ritual of hoisting the flag, singing the national anthem and patriotic songs and listening to politicians, including the Prime Minister, talk about the strengths of Indian democracy, the police cracked down on a much-celebrated campaigner against corruption, Anna Hazare and his team.

The drama that followed his arrest and that of others in his team, the growing protests, the late night release and then Anna's refusal to be released was not just farcical; it was a pitiful display of a government with no respect for people's right to protest and no strategy to deal with those who demand that right. In one day, the United Progressive Alliance (UPA) government managed to unite the opposition. Even those who do not subscribe to every aspect of Hazare's campaign, such as his demand that only his team's formulation of the Lok Pal Bill be accepted, strongly condemned the government's actions. On August 16, Anna Hazare successfully “arrested” the UPA government.

Ignored

Yet even as Hazare's anti-corruption crusade gained momentum with hundreds courting voluntary arrest, in another part of India, a protestor who has used a similar tactic, of going on an indefinite fast, continues to be ignored by the rest of the country and by the political leadership.

Given the issue — rooting out corruption — and the mobilisation of groups in big cities across India, as well as the concerted media attention, some might consider it irrelevant to talk about a corner of the country where a lone woman continues her fight against the truly undemocratic Armed Forces Special Powers Act (AFSPA) imposed on Manipur that has made life a living hell for the ordinary people of that State.

Indeed, when the rest of India — barring, of course, the Kashmir Valley — celebrated Independence Day, the scene in Manipur was strikingly different. Pradip Phanjoubam, Editor of the Imphal Free Press, wrote this moving opening paragraph in his editorial on August 15 titled, “State of Independence”:

“On the eve of the India's Independence Day, Imphal is acquiring the look of a war front. The scenario is not too different in other townships in Manipur as indeed in much of the Northeast. It has almost become a ritual every year. Various militant organisations would call for a boycott of the celebration of what is arguably the biggest and most important day in the country's history and in response the provincial governments would virtually stage flag marches to demonstrate the power of the establishment and push its way without being deterred by any threat whatsoever. Uniformed gun totting security personnel are on every corner of the streets frisking people, stopping motorists, checking their vehicles, questioning them etc. As expected, even a week before the big day approached, Imphal already began wearing a deserted look, especially after sunset. People return home early so as not to be accosted by security men and go through the humiliation of being made to stand on the side of the roads to be frisked and questioned like potential trouble makers. The ordinary people are supposed to be mere bystanders in this war game, but every time tensions escalate in moments like this, they have no choice than to be prepared to be the undeserved casualties, and sometimes become statistics of ‘ collateral damage', the well known sugar-coating aimed at making civilian killing and harassment seem like necessary and pardonable fallout of a conflict.”

Yes, Imphal is a long way from our relatively comfortable lives in cities in the rest of India, even if our lives are disrupted by the occasional power outage, by water shortage, by pot-holes on our roads, by inflation, and by the government deciding to deny those so inclined the right to protest. But Manipur is also India. Yet, here people live without electricity for most of the day, even in the capital city. Here, the areas with a sufficient water supply would probably be only those where the government and the army reside. Here, people are afraid to go out after dark and markets close as soon as the sun sets. Here, men with arms, the security forces and the various groups of militants, run the show. Here, ‘democracy' seems a theoretical construct, certainly not a lived reality.

Beacon of hope

And here, since November 2000, a 38-year-old woman, Irom Sharmila, has been on an indefinite fast demanding withdrawal of AFSPA. She is under arrest and is being force-fed by the government in a public hospital in Imphal. Every year she is released, and then re-arrested. Yet, this woman of unimaginable courage will simply not give up. And by holding on to her resolve, she holds up a small candle of hope for the people of her state. A hope that people will notice, that her determination will be recognised, that the current government, which in its earlier term had promised to look again at AFSPA, will not break one more promise.

We have forgotten that a year after the UPA government first took office in 2004, it set up a five-member committee headed by retired Supreme Court judge B. P. Jeevan Reddy. The committee recommended, amongst other things, a withdrawal of AFSPA. So Sharmila's demand is not unreasonable; a government-appointed committee has endorsed it. But the recommendation was given more than six years ago. Yet today, the security forces continue to enjoy the right to act with impunity, while the citizens of Manipur, who are also citizens of India, live without many fundamental rights guaranteed to them under our Constitution.

Anna Hazare's campaign, in the national capital and in full media glare, is premised on scepticism about the government's intent on the matter of dealing with corruption. But Sharmila has even a greater reason for scepticism given the absence of any movement on a recommendation that has been before the government for so many years.

If we are concerned about freedom, about democratic rights, about the right to protest, let us also remember other protests, other parts of India where democratic rights are being denied. Let us remember Sharmila.

Email the writer: sharma.kalpana@yahoo.com

Where Irom Sharmila overshadows Anna Hazare

IMPHAL: Unlike other states, Manipur is yet to witness a massive support for Anna Hazare's anti-corruption campaign from the people, social organizations and NGOs. However, the BJP and CPI (ML) has supported the Gandhian.

People are so pre-occupied with their lives in the face of the intensified economic blockade along National Highways 39 and 53 and Irom Sharmila Chanu's decade-old fast against the controversial Armed Forces (Special Powers) Act that Anna's campaign has failed to make an impact on them, feel social analysts and human rights defenders.

In pursuit of its long-standing demand to create Sadar Hills district, the Kukis have been imposing economic blockade along the two key supply routes since August 1. The intensified agitation has triggered commodity crisis in the state, prompting the public to rush for foodstuff and essentials to meet their daily requirements. While the rate of a litre of petrol soared to Rs 130, people are forced to buy an LPG cylinder at Rs 1100 in the grey market.

"We do support Anna's anti-corruption campaign but people in Manipur are more concerned with the scarcity of essential commodities triggered by the ongoing economic blockade," said Babloo Loitongbam, the executive director of Human Rights Alert (HRA).

"Sharmila's 10-year fast against the military Act, which gives unbridled powers to the armed forces even to shoot on mere suspicion has not been paid attention by the government. I think the people of Manipur are not taking serious note of Anna's stir because of this," added Babloo.

Some daily wagers in Imphal, who have been hit hard by the economic blockade, categorically said Anna's stir was not in their mind as they are fighting for their survival. "What we are thinking is food to live and fuel to move to earn money and not Anna stir. Yes, we also want a strong anti-corruption law, but without food we cannot shout for the Jan Lok Pal bill," quipped Rajen Singh, a daily wager.

BJP, while supporting Anna's campaign, has accused the Centre of encouraging corruption by continuing to scuttle the civil society's version of the Lokpal Bill. A party leader said they would soon intensify their ongoing anti-corruption campaign in the state. The state committee of CPI (ML) has termed the recent arrest of Anna and clamping of prohibitory orders at New Delhi as an "autocratic act" of the Centre.

Border Gets in Order

Dhaka, Delhi start signing strip maps



Tarique Ahmed Karim, sitting left, Bangladesh high commissioner to New Delhi, and Rajeet Mitter, sitting right, Indian high commissioner to Dhaka, sign a map for demarcating Bangladesh's border with West Bengal at Directorate of Land Record and Survey in the city yesterday. Photo: STAR

AT A GLANCE
*Total border 4156 km, 1,129 strip maps
* Disputes at 25 points
*Dhaka possesses 1,880.80acre at seven points
*India possesses 1,165.49acre at 18 points

Dhaka and New Delhi have started signing boundary strip maps to settle disputes along the 4,156 kilometre border between the two countries ahead of the Indian prime minister's Bangladesh visit.

The two nations yesterday inked a map for demarcating Bangladesh's border with West Bengal.

Of the 4,156 km borderline, 320 km border with the Indian state of Mizoram had been drawn earlier. Land surveyors of both the countries have been working on the rest of the borderline, and so far finalised 1,083 maps for 3829.5 km of the borderline except 6.5 km strips along Panchagarh, Moulvibazar and Feni.

The remaining 6.5 km boundary line will be drawn in a month, said Abdul Mannan, director general of Directorate of Land Record and Survey (DLRS).

Tarique Ahmed Karim, Bangladesh high commissioner to New Delhi, and Rajeet Mitter, Indian high commissioner to Dhaka, signed the map yesterday at the DLRS in the capital.

A strip map is a simple drawing of a route to include critical points along the border, roadside features and town facilities. It usually incorporates distances.

"There won't be any change in the boundary line drawn earlier. But these maps will end all the border disputes," said the DLRS director general.

“Hopefully, all the maps will be signed in a month," said Abdul Mannan.

Both the countries will have four signed copies of the maps each.

He said one copy will be kept at the foreign affairs ministry, one at the home ministry, one at the DLRS and another at the National Archive of Bangladesh.

"We did not discuss the enclaves."

The prime ministers of the two nations will decide on 111 Indian enclaves (17,160 acres of land) with a population of 37,000 and 51 Bangladeshi enclaves (7,110 acres of land) with a population of 14,000 during Manmohan Singh's Bangladesh visit on September 6-7.

The two countries have disputes over land at about 25 points in West Bengal, Tripura, Meghalaya and Assam. Bangladesh adversely possesses 1,880.81 acres of India's land at seven points while India adversely possesses 1,165.49 acres of Bangladesh land at 18 points.

A total of 628 maps have been drawn for 2,262 km border with West Bengal, 93 maps for 264 km border with Assam, 20 maps for 320 km border with Mizoram, 269 maps for 874 km border with Tripura, and 139 maps for 436 km border with Meghalaya.

India and Pakistan surveyed jointly to draw borders after the partition in 1947. But they stopped it after diplomatic relations between the two countries deteriorated in 1962.

Bangabandhu Sheikh Mujibur Rahman and Indian Prime Minister Indira Gandhi signed Bangladesh-India Land Boundary Agreement in 1974 to demarcate the border between the two countries. But the demarcation process was later halted.

The issue came to the fore during Prime Minister Sheikh Hasina's India visit last year. The two countries have been working to settle all border disputes since then.

When asked about barbed-wire fencing by the Indian authorities along the border, the director general said they put up fences 150 metres inside their territory.

"So, it is not a matter of concern for us till now," said Abdul Mannan.

Foreign Minister Dipu Moni, Home Minister Shahara Khatun, and Land Minister Rezaul Karim Hira, State Minister for Land Mustafizur Rahman, Chief of Indian border cell Maj Gen Girish Kumar, and the chiefs of Bangladesh Border Guard and Indian Border Security Force were also present at the signing.

20 August 2011

Fuel Scarcity Hits Manipur, Nagas Stage Stir

manipur Sadar Hills Bandh

Imphal, Aug 20
: The Imphal bench of Gauhati high court is feeling the heat of the ongoing agitation by the Kukis on National Highways 39 and 53 in Manipur. For two successive days since Thursday, the High Court Bar Association, Manipur had to suspend court proceedings owing to an acute shortage of petrol and diesel triggered by the highway stir.

Though some oil outlets here have started selling petrol and diesel, though in a rationed way, people have to spend four to five hours to get their share to tank up their vehicles. To make the matter worse, black marketers are selling petrol at Rs 100 a litre.

"On Wednesday, the bar association decided to suspend work in the court," a key leader of the association said, adding that its members would convene a meeting on Tuesday to discuss the matter.

In pursuit of its decades-old demand to convert Sadar Hills in Senapati into a full-fledged revenue district, the self-explanatory Sadar Hills District Demand Committee (SHDDC) has been imposing the economic blockade in the two highways since August 31.

The committee has also called an indefinite general strike in Sadar Hills. Besides fuel, prices of other essential commodities have also doubled up giving a big bow to the consumers.

On the other hand, President Pratibha Devisingh Patil has pledged to look into the agitators' demand. Her assurance came during a meeting with a delegation of Kuki leaders, including SHDDC committee members, in New Delhi on Wednesday.

In the meantime, thousands of Nagas on Friday took to the streets in the four hill districts of strife-torn Manipur to oppose the state government's alleged attempt to bifurcate Senapati by converting Sadar Hills and Jiribam into full-fledged districts. This comes at a time when the Kukis have intensified their decades old agitation, seeking conversion of Sadar Hills in Senapati to a full-fledged revenue district.

Under the aegis of the powerful United Naga Council (UNC), a protest rally was staged simultaneously at the district headquarters of four Naga-dominated districts of Senapati, Chandel, Tamenlong and Ukhrul where the rallyists also announced a common declaration. The silent rallies were organized by various Naga social and student bodies under UNC.

At the Chandel district headquarters, the Chandel Naga People's Organization (CNPO) speaker (Assembly Affairs) Kh Loveson Monsang read out a declaration reading, " We condemn the divide and rule policy of the state government which has always played the communal card."

Four MOUs signed by the Nagas of Manipur and the state government in 1981, 1992, 1996 and 1998 underline the spirit that the resolution to the conflict on the issue of Sadar Hills will be brought about through a consensus of the peoples concerned in the interest of bringing about lasting peace and harmony between the Nagas and Kukis. But the government is acting otherwise, it said.

The declaration added that the Nagas wish for peace and harmony with other communities based on mutual respect for rights over land and traditional ownership.

Stating that the collaborators of the state government were fishing in troubled waters, which will only cause grievous damage to the fraternal relationship of the communities, the declaration said, "We respect the genuine aspirations and rights of all communities in the state just as we wish that our demands are respected by others."

Lokpal: Indian Govt Seeks Ideas

Lokpal: govt seeks ideas

New Delhi, Aug 20 : Television channels are reporting that the Prime Minister, Dr Manmohan Singh, is expected to make a statement in short while from now, reflecting the government's response to civil rights activist Anna Hazare's demand to pass the Jan Lokpal Bill by August 30, failing which, he will continue his fast "till my last breath."

In a new strategy, the Parliamentary Standing Committee on Personnel, Public Grievances, Law and Justice that is looking into the Lokpal Bill today, has invited suggestions from individuals and organisations.

The committee headed by noted lawyer and Congress spokesman Abhishek Manu Singhvi has decided to invite memoranda containing the views and suggestions from the individuals and organisations interested in the subject matter of the Bill and also to hear select oral evidence on the subject matter of the Bill.

Those desirous of submitting memoranda to the committee have been asked to send a letter within fifteen days of the publication of the announcement. The committee has also asked for those, who are willing to appear before the committee for oral evidence besides submitting the memorandum, to indicate the same.

Lokpal: govt seeks ideas

There is a view that two private member's bills - introduced by Varun Feroze Gandhi of the Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP) in the Lok Sabha and independent member Rajiv Chandrashekhar in the Rajya Sabha -- can offer a way out.

Varun Gandhi, according to the Times Now channel, plans to move the Jan Lokpal Bill as his bill, while Chandrashekhar's bill has incorporated features of civil society's version of the legislation.

Since the grouse of the civil society is that Parliament won't get to debate the merits of their bill, the two private members' bills can give the two Houses an opportunity to assess the merits of the two rival pieces of legislation, potentially clearing the way for a resolution.

However, procedures and conventions may come in the way. A private member's bill can be introduced in the House only after a month's notice.

While Varun Gandhi hasn't yet formally sought the Speaker's permission to move the bill, Chandrashekhar submitted his bill in the first week of August. So, neither has a month's time to be taken up for adoption in this session. Still, extraordinary situations often lead to "creative" solutions. Perhaps, with the House''s permission, the process may be fast-tracked.

Lokpal: govt seeks ideas

Meanwhile, the Congress has expressed its readiness to talk to Team Anna if it formally approaches the government over the Lokpal issue.

An indication to this effect was available after Prime Minister Manmohan Singh chaired an hour-long meeting with senior ministers to take stock of the situation arising out of Anna Hazare's fast at Ramlila Ground. Apart from the prime minister, the meeting of the Congress Core Committee was attended by all other members including Union Ministers Pranab Mukherjee, P Chidambaram, A K Antony and UPA Chairperson Sonia Gandhi's political secretary Ahmed Patel.

Party sources were quoted, as saying that they have no problem in holding negotiations with Team Anna if they express readiness for the same. Several party leaders, speaking on condition of anonymity, have said the government should re-engage Team Anna in talks.

The Renaming of Bengal And How The Times Of India Lost A Bet

By Anant Rangaswami

A good punter on at the racecourse never puts all his money on a particular horse; if the horse loses, he loses his shirt, unable to bet again on another race and recoup some of his losses. And when an all-party committee in West Bengal arrived at a consensus that the state would henceforth be called Paschimbanga, The Times of India lost big.

The Times of India had bet its shirt on one of several options being considered (Bangla, Paschim Banga, Banga Pradesh and Bangabhumi were among the many names in the running) by the all-party committee set up to consider this issue.

The Times of India backed Bengal with the confidence of a race-fixer – no other name found a place in its ‘Only Bengal’ campaign for the renaming of the state, supported strongly by Times Now.

Politicians may retrace their steps in the wake of the new debate on their decision or may not follow through on the steps required to make the rechristening officialPTI

If there were aspects that The Times of India campaign got bang on, one was the reality that there was no agreement on the rechristening; another was that many questioned the very need for the renaming.

“Paschimbanga does not fulfil all our aspirations but, at this moment, it was more important to arrive at a consensus. It (Paschimbanga) is being used and we won’t have to bring too many changes,” Minister Partha Chatterjee said after the end of the all-party meeting chaired by the Chief Minister, reports The Telegraph.

Whatever the reasons for the choice of Paschimbanga, The Times of India must have learnt a lesson from this debacle: while their marketing department and communication partners are brilliant when it comes to understanding popular culture and local idiom, they still have some way to go in understanding politicians and political machinations.

But they succeeded elsewhere. For example, their assault on Chennai with the much-awarded Nakka Mukka campaign, which played a large role in getting them closer to Chennai’s citizens – and in making a dent in the circulation and advertising revenue of The Hindu.

This film, A day in the life of Chennai, was only building on a strong and robust foundation created by a previous, equally brilliant, series of TV commercials, A day in the life of India. Here’s one from the series:

If the previous versions of A day in the Life were one-way communication, the Internet and mobile telephony presented The Times of India with an opportunity to make ‘A day in the life’ two-way communication, with this competition:

Looking again at the films from the A Day in the Life series and reviewing the Only Bengal film, was there a hint – in the film itself – that ToI could be wrong? All the other films have you nodding in agreement with the premise and the sentiment; the Only Bengal films capture the division and the debate on the name change. The films captured it – and The Times of India failed to see it.

But all is not lost yet. “Changing the name is a horrible idea. The word “Bong” will now stick. What’s worse, we will now be called “Posh Bongs”, Leslie D’Gama, former teacher at St Xavier’s, is quoted as saying in The Telegraph.

Maybe, in a few years from now, Paschimbanga will be renamed again.

More optimistically, politicians may retrace their steps in the wake of the new debate on their decision or may not follow through on the steps required to make the rechristening official.

Source: firstpost.com

Fasting Anna sets Aug 30 Deadline For Anti-Graft Law

Fasting Anna sets Aug 30 deadline for anti-graft law

New Delhi: Riding on a groundswell of support, social activist Anna Hazare Friday vowed to continue his fast till a strong anti-graft law is enacted and gave an ultimatum of Aug 30 for parliament nod to the Lokpal Bill, even as he began his protest at Ramlila Ground here.

He also announced that his supporters nationwide will begin a 'jail bharo' (courting arrest) protest after Aug 30 if a stronger Lokpal Bill with the prime minister and judiciary under its purview was not passed by parliament.

Faced with this fresh challenge, a beleaguered Congress Party, which is heading the coalition government at the centre, held its core committee meeting under the chairmanship of Prime Minister Manmohan Singh to assess the political fall-out.

The 74-year-old Hazare, who reached the rain-drenched Ramlila Ground after a nearly three-hour journey from the Tihar Jail where he had been since Tuesday, showed no signs of fatigue and was his usual energetic self.

Fasting Anna sets Aug 30 deadline for anti-graft law

"We will not leave this place till a (stronger) Lokpal bill is passed," the soldier-turned-reformer said, urging the youth not to abandon the fight against corruption.

"The parliament should pass the Lokpal Bill by Aug 30. If not, activists all over the country will start a jail bharo agitation," he told supporters.

"This is the start of a new revolution, of a new freedom struggle," declared Hazare, whose arrest Tuesday had sparked off popular anger and put the government in a political fix.

"This torch of revolution should always remain lit. It is not just about Lokpal. We have to bring about a transformation in this country," he said in chaste Hindi, comparing the present-day government with the colonial British Raj.

People, he added, would not tolerate any more the loot of national wealth.

The crowds at the Ramlila Ground continued to swell, despite lashing rains, late into the night, and most of them preferred to stay back in the ground rather than go back home.

Fasting Anna sets Aug 30 deadline for anti-graft law

Elsewhere, in towns and cities across the nation, protests continued for the fourth day in his support.

Hazare's team member and senior advocate Prashant Bhusan dismissed rumours of the social activists surrendering to the government, saying: "No compromise has been agreed to."

Another Hazare associate, Arvind Kejriwal, said all their demands on the Lokpal Bill were non-negotiable, but denied there was division in Team Anna's ranks.

He also said if the government wanted to have a separate anti-graft law for judiciary, then the civil society activists will draft it for parliament to pass.

Slamming the government for saying Parliament was supreme as far as law-making was concerned, Kejriwal thundered: "The people are supreme, parliament is not."

To demands for Team Anna activists to contest elections, Hazare refused to take the bait, saying he will never ever enter an electoral battle.

Before reaching the sprawling Ramlila Ground, Hazare visited Rajghat, where a large crowd gathered to support him. He also paid homage at the India Gate memorial to the Unknown Soldier.

Fasting Anna sets Aug 30 deadline for anti-graft law

Hazare was arrested Tuesday and sent to Tihar Jail ahead of his scheduled hunger strike. As mass protests erupted nationwide, the government backed off and ordered him released.

But Hazare refused to leave the prison until he was allowed to fast without fetters. Eventually, the authorities agreed to let him use the Ramlila Ground that can accommodate thousands of people.

As he stepped out of Tihar Jail Friday morning, hundreds of people, many of whom had been camping outside the prison for days, cheered.

With a protective ring thrown by police and activists of India Against Corruption (IAC), Hazare started his journey to Ramlila Ground in an open truck decorated with the national flag that negotiated its way through massive crowds.

At one point, the procession was two kilometres long. The crowd, made up of people from all ages and varying socio-economic backgrounds, appeared upbeat and quite unmindful of the rain.

What Women Think When Men Are Naked

Dr Pam Spurr

Uncovered: what she really thinks of your body

Behaviour expert Dr Pam Spurr shares the inside scoop on what women are thinking when they see you naked.

Uncovered: what she really thinks of your body(Getty Images)

Guys know that when you see a woman naked there are often plenty of thoughts racing through their mind, some which might be in conflict. For example, "she looks hot... but is she really up for it? And with me?" But they are your thoughts, so at least you know your own mind.

Equally, her mind can be a hive of activity when she catches sight of your body, whether it's the first time or further down the line. But what is she thinking exactly? You might be surprised by some of what goes on in the female mind.

Read on to learn everything you need to know about 10 things she's thinking when she sees you naked.

So that's what he wears underneath...

So that's what he wears underneath... (Getty Images)

So that's what he wears underneath... She will have been wondering if you're a briefs-or-boxers type of guy. Women read so much about your personality - or try to - from the style and colour/pattern of your underwear. She's already been having a lot of fun guessing who you are and what you're about from the way you speak and from your body language. What type of underwear you sport is one of the next pieces of the puzzle in her assessment of you. Whatever brand they are, or what style, just make sure they're clean!

Oh my, let's take a look at his private package...

Oh my, let's take a look at his private package... (Getty Images)

Oh my, let's take a look at his private package... Yes, she looks at the 'whole package' but she also looks at 'the' package. Some surprising research from the Centre for Behavioural Neuroscience in 2007 found that women take a peek at your genitals very quickly indeed, in fact quicker than when your eyes wander 'down below' on her. It's thought that this is a natural biologically-based response, particularly if she's at the fertility peak of her cycle. Be confident, relax and let her take a good look!

So he's got a few lumps and bumps...

So he's got a few lumps and bumps... (Getty Images)

So he's got a few lumps and bumps... Women aren't by nature overly critical and although her eyes might skim over any excess weight that you're carrying, as long as you're confident in the bedroom it won't matter. Overwhelmingly women find confident men a turn on. She'll be picking up subtle cues from the way you move and speak that signal you feel good about what is going on between you. These are far more important to her than if she notices a spare tyre around your middle.

Your scent of seduction...

Your scent of seduction... (Getty Images)

Your scent of seduction... Stale sweat is a definite turnoff and a subconscious message of poor hygiene and maybe even poor health. But - and it's a big 'but' - fresh sweat is chock-full of your pheromones and MHCs** - the manly smells that women love and that can influence levels of attraction. It goes without saying that you don't have to greet her straight from the gym but don't overuse shower gels and aftershaves either. A little goes a long way and stick with the more masculine smells that mimic pheromones.

** Research reported in Behaviour Ecology 2003

He has soft areas too...

He has soft areas too... (Getty Images)

He has soft areas too... As she gets to know your body through exploring your erogenous zones she'll be surprised to find that you have soft areas too. Women are so much more used to the rougher feel of your hands and your five o'clock shadow that it's a nice surprise discovering your lower abdomen, the inside of your thighs and that your wrists are smooth and soft. She may want to spend time gently kissing and caressing these erogenous zones too, particularly with your encouragement.

Can he tell I'm nervous too...

Can he tell I'm nervous too... (Getty Images)

Can he tell I'm nervous too... Women are great at picking up male nervousness and as long as it's not extreme nerves she'll breathe a sigh of relief. She'll feel a warm sense of empathy towards your nerves and wonder if you can tell she's also nervous. This can deepen a fledgling emotional bond that you and she are equals when it comes to wanting things to go well. This ultimately can lead to a better sexual bond.

Please hold me tight...

Please hold me tight... (Getty Images)

Please hold me tight... If she has any nerves - particularly if this is your first time together - when she sees you naked she may feel in need of some big, affectionate cuddles. Take your time before you get into serious foreplay and make sure your foreplay includes some good, loving affection. A new boyfriend standing there big-and-in-the-buff and who wants to jump straight into a quickie can be daunting for some women.

I love his shoulders...

I love his shoulders... (Getty Images)

I love his shoulders... A key physical cue of your masculinity is knowing that your shoulders are wider than hers. Her eyeline is drawn to them even if you don't feel that they're particularly broad. Your broad shoulders immediately give her a sense of your physical differences - and vive la différence when it comes to the bedroom! Make sure she gets a good look as you peel off your shirt slowly and confidently.

The 'windows' to your soul...

The 'windows' to your soul... (Getty Images)

The 'windows' to your soul... Keep your eyes focused on her while at the same time keeping the lighting low if and when you are seducing her. University of Edinburgh researchers in 2009 showed that women are attracted to men with large pupils. Subconsciously she picks up that you're sexually attracted to her as enlarged pupils are a natural physical reaction when you find someone attractive. As the heat in the bedroom rises with foreplay she'll notice if you're giving her good eye contact - which is attractive anyway despite pupil size. Or if you're avoiding eye contact, she might read this as a lack of confidence.

I hope he's not comparing me to his ex

I hope he's not comparing me to his ex (Getty Images)

I hope he's not comparing me to his ex... As you two get naked - particularly if it's at your place and she knows your ex used to hang out there - she wants you to only have eyes for her. She wonders if the two of you together, in your bedroom, brings back other memories of your ex.

Focus entirely on her, ask what she would like and what you can do to please her and she'll soon forget such niggles.

Odd Chinese Sleeping Positions

There are many types of sleeping positions from the conventional to the bizarre, but as long as they get to sleep, people don't seem to care

Odd sleeping positions

A traveller sleeps while waiting for his train at the Beijing Railway Station on the eve of Labour Day holiday. This is the time when millions of Chinese travel to major cities to enjoy cultural attractions or return home to visit relatives and friends.

Odd sleeping positions

A migrant worker rests his head on his construction hat and a soft-drink bottle as he sleeps in front of a construction site in central Beijing.

Odd sleeping positions

A passenger sleeps on an overnight train from Yangzhou to Hankou in Wuhu, eastern China's Anhui province.

Odd sleeping positions

A man takes a nap in the sun on his motorized tricycle in Beijing.

Odd sleeping positions

A man selling furniture sleeps atop items for sale at an outdoor market in central Beijing.

Odd sleeping positions

A vendor naps at a pork wholesale market in Changzhi, Shanxi province.

Odd sleeping positions

A worker takes a nap surrounded by ducklings at a duck farm on the outskirts of Jiaxing, Zhejiang province.

Odd sleeping positions

A migrant worker sleeps on the back of his motor tricycle, under a mosquito net with his wife and son, on the pavement of a street in Hefei, Anhui province

Odd sleeping positions

Mothers take a nap near a school as their children take the National College Entrance Exams in Beijing June 7, 2011. About 9.33 million students make a start on China's national college entrance exams or "gaokao" from June 7 to 8, a fiercely competitive test that is seen as make-or-break for getting ahead.

Odd sleeping positions

Chinese school children sleep at their desks during a noon break at a private elementary school for the children of migrant workers in Shanghai

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Parents of freshmen sleep on mats laid out on the floor of a gymnasium inside a university campus in Wuhan, Hubei province.

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People wait outside the Beijing West Railway Station early morning

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Migrant workers who have collected materials for recycling nap in their carts along a street in Taiyuan, Shanxi province

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Children of migrant workers sleep on a desk in a classroom at a primary school in Hefei, Anhui province June 1, 2011. The education of the children of migrant workers, who number 240 million in China, is one of the top concerns of the Chinese State Council, Premier Wen Jiabao said during an online chat with Internet users in February.

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Rescue miners rest at the site of the flooding accident of Wangjialing Coal Mine, located across both Xiangning county and Hejin city, in northern China's Shanxi province

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A man sleeps next to chickens he will sell at a poultry market in Shanghai.

Source: Agencies
Photos: Reuters